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Thursday, April 8, 2010

The Second Baby

Howdy, Guests-n-Regulars!

Baby numero dos, second to baby numero uno (that ball of cute babe-age, Sean Murf), landed on my doorstep a few days ago:




Waahhhhhh! Can you hear it crying a-la-just-born-baby? Mommy, look at me! Here I am!



Why, hello sweetie! Yes, I'm glad you're here, after more than two years of working and waiting and gestating!

Unlike Sean, produced in a heated moment of intercourse, this second baby started out differently (and if you've seen little ditty before, scroll down and ignore):

One night in Ecuador, 2007
I sat on a wall with a hot guy named Kevin,
Sipping a beer while I bitched about life.
And then Kevin said, "Hey, my sad little wife!
Take all those thoughts swirling 'round in your head,
and spin them into something funny instead!"
"But what's so damned funny?" I asked with a frown.
He said "you won't know if you don't write it down."

So I did.

Now after two-and-a-half years of typing,
of adding, deleting, hoping and griping,
of family and friends pushing me hard,
of whining to Kevin that "writing is hard!"
Finally it's here: my very first book!
It would sure mean a lot if you'd go take a look.
It might make you chuckle, or find yourself crying,
but in Kevin's words: you won't know without trying!


It would mean so much to me, really and truly a lot, if you'd give this book a read and help me spread the word about it - particularly to newly KuKd or TTC mommas/daddas who might be feeling like crap. It's hard for me to say that here without sounding really slimy and self-promotional to my own ears, blegh. Rest assured, my goal is not to make a million bucks off it (as I recently told a friend, I hardly get a dime off each copy sold - so I'll consider myself lucky if this book buys me a couple of Coronas and a new laser ink cartridge). ]

Really, I want it to be read by you and others because I'm hoping that readers will connect with some of the feelings and thoughts expressed on its pages. The book - not so much a literary classic story with a beginning and end, but rather a series of snapshots of surreal KuKd life - is the product of my own feeling weirded out and isolated over the past few years. And it's got drawings, too - which I did on the #174 bus on route to work. Things like:

Me, pretty sure there's a tumor in my brain slowly killing me (see it making my face melt?)



Me versus Mammary Glands: realizing in horror that my boobs think there's a real-life baby to feed.



And of course, Zachary. The Zachary of my imagination, what he would have looked like in his teens.



I'm also hoping that a fellow KuKd'er might tell me something like: "OH YEAH - I totally felt that exact same way!" And hey: if you live in the Seattle area, why not come to my happy little BOOK LAUNCH PARTY - 7pm on April 28th? E-mail me if you'd like the deets - monica@monicamurphylemoine.com.

ANYWAY. You can find the book at Amazon.

34 comments:

angie said...

I actually am only about fifty pages away from finishing your book, which I ordered a few days after giving birth myself, and have somehow managed to read it, even though I have no time to read between caring for my aching ass and my hungry, greedy little Thor. Today, it sent me into cathartic sobs during naptime, which was so nice. It is a huge testament to how good it is that I have read it so quickly and so voraciously. I'm damn proud of you, Monica, for giving a voice to us non-Celine Dion angel-focused folk in KUKD world. I would pass it on to others, but I think others should go out and buy it their own damn selves and support a local blogger.
Much love. XO.

Maddie said...

I've just been to Amazon and ordered it :-) I'm down in Australia so it's going to take a few weeks to get here though....

I'm sure it's great though.

Catherine W said...

Have also just been to Amazon (UK) and ordered your lovely baby numero dos.

I'm glad you wrote it. I'm looking forward to reading it. I'm proud of you if that counts for anything. I'm so glad you wrote it. So I've got something of worth to pass on to the new KuKd parents I will, inevitably and sadly, meet along the way.

Would love to buy you a Corona if you're ever in England x

Supposed to be... "Mama G"... said...

I am planning on getting a copy of your book, as a newly KuKd momma, (2 months since), I am so proud and honoured to be able to read your story. You give me hope..I want you to know that. Your story and perserverence, and strength gives me and my hubby strength to try again. You should be proud and damn it... Hold that head high!

Supposed to be... "Mama G"... said...

OK.. nevermind "planning" to get the book, I just ordered it. I'm looking forward to getting my copy :) (It has a longer journey to "the Canadian north".. but I am eager to read it)...

Michelle said...

Well Congratulations on this new baby! I can't wait to read it. I am going to get it and promote it for you. I am sure it is amazing just like your blog and most importantly just like you!

KuKd Chick said...

Sorry, Anonymous - had to delete your comment. Point taken, though. :-)

KuKd Chick said...

Thanks y'all, for the lovin' support!

Hope's Mama said...

Ordered it (would I be the first to get it in Australia?) and can't wait to get it.
xo

Sharon said...

Mon!! Dude!!! This is so awesome!!! Congratulations!!!!
So proud of you Mamma!

Sophie said...

Congrats on the book. Will look into getting a copy!
xx

myskytimes said...

YAY!!! Just ordered me a good read. Amazon says it'll arrive in my neck of the woods in mid-may. *sighs* But I'm patient and will just have to wait.

Congratz, Mrs Author!

xo

Reba said...

can't wait to pick it up. will also repost on my own blog in a couple days but i'm pretty sure anyone who reads mine also comes here. congrats!

KuKd Chick said...

Thanks so much, y'all - this means a BUNCH to me. :-)

Amy said...

Congrats on the book launching! I can't wait to get a copy... I and the image of you holding your boobies saying "oh shit" made me laugh this morning. Painful memory for sure, but sometimes you have to laugh. Good job again on the book.

Cape Girl said...

I just ordered it and I can't wait to read it. I will definitely post about it on my blog, too.

You have been such an inspiration to me!

Congrats on the book!!!

leahjane8 said...

Just placed my order! Can't wait to read it. Congratulations on both your babies!

rebecca said...

Yay!!!!!!!!!!! So happy that your amazing voice is going to be available more widely! I would order it from Amazon, but instead I am going to go to my local Brooklyn bookseller to ask them to order me a copy so that the word gets out more - and I'm going to tell them to think about ordering one for the store, too, since despite the stroller-packed streets indicating otherwise, I know that there are a lot of fellow KuKd'ers in my neighborhood who would appreciate your perspective.

Congrats a million times over on both of your amazing babies!

rebecca said...

Monica - one thing I've been wondering about, though, is why the book title and promo only mention miscarriage and vaguely refer to pregnancy "ending"? Is still birth too depressing for them to want it on the cover??

KuKd Chick said...

Thanks so much, y'all.

Rebecca, awesome- that's how it gets to bookstores. Totally cool if you can do that. About the title, it was my own overly-thought-out idea to leave stillbirth out of the subtitle -mainly because I wanted that element to be a surprise, like plot twist. We'll see if that backfires. It's not lie most people who read it aren't going to already know the ending.... ;-) Anyway, -

lis said...

im so very excited for you. how lovely that you were able to produce two babies! that's like crazy given your track record!
i will be reading and i can't wait to cry and laugh along with you...

give that human baby a snuggle for all of us who are still KD for now...xoxo

lis said...

added your book to my site...hope you sell lots and lots of copies and can buy some toner at least!

*~*Lis*~* said...

I finished it last night - over a few beers and a bowl of bean soup. It was wonderfully written, I laughed, I crie - I farted like Chuck (thanks to the bean soup). I was going to donate it to my library (and believe it or not they actually DO have a KD section!) but it's something I want on my bookshelf so it's waiting patiently in the attic with all the other grown-up books to be takenback out once the kiddos are through the ripping books up stage.

Congratulaions on both yor babies!

KuKd Chick said...

Lis #1 - yay! Awesome. I will give Sean a snuggle on your behalf.

Lis #2 - OMG, I was really hoping the chuck-farting chapter was what caused you to fart. Damn bean soup for stealing my thunder! Anyway, glad you enjoyed the book. :-)

'Murgdan' said...

So excited for you...and yes, it is amazing timing to have BOTH of these babies come at once...but I'm so overjoyed and proud about BOTH of them for you. :-)

Emerging Butterfly said...

A copy is on it's way to my front door. I'll spread the word as well...I know that was SO important when my husband had his book published, and a good book is worth promoting! I've been working on one as well as I find the words MUST out! We shall see what happens there. In the meantime.... Congratulations!!! On SO many levels.

KuKd Chick said...

Emerging Butterfly- YAY! Can't wait for the thud of it landing on your front door. Thanks for the words of support, :0)

Emerging Butterfly said...

Hows that little bundle doing by the way? I can almost smell his sweetness....I do love that smell. Enjoy!

Fireflyforever said...

I've ordered it too - end of April, beginning of May for me here. (It can be my birthday present to myself). Well done you.

Cassie said...

Ahhh...the friend with the shot of tequila who puts her arm around me and says, "Let's talk, g-friend. Allllll about our dead babies, as long as you want" :) Ahhh! Thank you, Monica!!!

Have to tell you, I LITERALLY had a laughing FIT at the end when you described your salsa lessons and their...invigorating effect on the teacher! HA ha ha ha! And I didn't care if I woke up my two small boys and one large boy (husband)---nor that is was 2am.

I loved reading your writing. I didn't want it to end. Perhaps a sequel? :)

KuKd Chick said...

Emerging Butterfly- little bundle is a real boob-sucker, but adorable and keeping me up at night.

Cassie - "invigorating effect" - that's one way to put it. :-) Glad you're liking the story! -m

Emerging Butterfly said...

Very nice....all is in order then! Remember to take care of yourself and breathe that baby smell in deeply for me.

Jericho said...

Wow---I need this book. Will be looking for it!

Tina said...

Ordered my copy today! Can't wait until it gets here!!!!! xx